Do you have a friend like this?
They keep apologizing—even when it’s not their fault: “I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have said that…”
They remember every offhand comment and constantly worry they’ve hurt you.
After getting emotional, they avoid you and don’t dare to reach out first.
They’re deeply affectionate, but guilt sometimes leads them to withdraw.
If you often think, “I’m not even mad, so why are they being so hard on themselves?”
Then your friend might be a classic 🎃 Oopsie Squashy-type.
🎃 Their Personality: Emotionally loyal, but scared of hurting others or being rejected
These friends are incredibly attentive:
They remember the little things you say, afraid of overlooking your feelings
They quickly reflect during conflict, often blaming themselves too much
They hesitate to ask for things, worried about being “a burden”
They’re not inconsiderate—they just care so much it becomes emotionally exhausting
They’re not over-emotional—they just feel so deeply, they worry about pressuring others
💡 What 🎃 Oopsie Squashy Friends Might Be Thinking:
“If I said something wrong… will you never trust me again?”
“If I was too blunt… will you not want to see me anymore?”
“I treasure you so much, but I always seem to mess things up…”
✅ How Can I Support Them?
1. Give clear signals: you accept them, even when they make mistakes
You can say:
“I’m not mad at you—it was really brave of you to share your feelings.”
“It’s normal for friends to have emotions. I won’t walk away because of one moment.”
✅ This reassures them that what you value is their whole self, not perfection.
2. Hold space for their guilt—instead of brushing it off
🎃: “I’m sorry, I shouldn’t have raised my voice…”
👩: “I can feel how sincere you are. Next time, we can handle emotions together.”
✅ Turn guilt into connection—not silence.
3. Open the door to healing—don’t just absorb everything quietly
You can say:
“I know you care a lot, but I want you to know… it’s okay to tell me when you’re upset.”
“I want to hear the real you—not just the version that stays quiet to keep peace.”
✅ This helps them feel like you want their truth, not just their compliance.
4. Reaffirm your bond with action—not only after they finish self-punishing
You could suggest:
“Let’s grab a meal together—I want to see you again!”
“Don’t just keep saying sorry—let’s chat properly next time!”
✅ Rebuilding interaction helps them see that one mistake won’t break your friendship.
🎃 Oopsie Squashy friends secretly want you to know:
“I’m not weak—I just really treasure you.”
“It’s not that I can’t speak up—I’m afraid saying the wrong thing will drive you away.”
“I don’t want to lose you, so I keep reflecting… even if it means going silent.”
💬 You can say to them:
“I like you not because you’re flawless, but because you’re genuine.”
“I won’t judge you by just one thing—we’re friends, remember?”
“Going through emotions with you—that’s part of what friendship means to me.”