👀 You might notice these situations:
When making plans, they keep confirming: “Are you sure this time is okay? Am I bothering you?”
When opening up, they repeatedly ask: “Am I talking too much?”
They hold high standards for themselves, even overanalyze their words: “Was that okay? Maybe I shouldn’t have said that?”
Even when you say they’re fine, they’ll ask again: “Do you really think so? Or are you just being polite?”
These are common traits of Anxioli Garlic-type friends 🧄🤍:
They constantly worry about doing things wrong, saying the wrong things, or being a burden.
But deep down, they just want to be accepted and to be a friend who doesn't weigh you down.
🧠 What they might be thinking inside:
“I know you're kind, but I don’t want to make things hard for you.”
“I want you to be happy, but I’m afraid I’ll say something that makes you pull away.”
“Even if you say yes, I still wonder if it’s just out of politeness.”
“I tread carefully because I really value you.”
✅ So how can you gently support them?
🧄 1. Affirm that their presence isn’t “extra” but truly meaningful
Say things like:
“I enjoy being with you—not because of what you do, but simply because you’re here.”
“You don’t have to be perfect to be my friend—just being you is enough.”
✅ Let them know: I want you here, no need to prove anything.
🧄 2. When they share something personal, don’t rush to evaluate—receive their feelings first
You can say:
“Thank you for trusting me with something so heartfelt—I can feel how much it matters to you.”
“You explained it so clearly—I understood what you meant, don’t worry about saying it wrong.”
✅ Understanding their emotions comes first—then they can gradually relax.
🧄 3. When they keep asking “Am I being annoying?”, don’t just say “Of course not!”
Add something like:
“I get that you keep asking because you don’t want to disturb me,
but honestly—this isn’t annoying, it just shows how thoughtful you are.”
✅ Help unpack their inner worries, rather than just giving surface-level reassurance.
🧄 4. Let them know: “You don’t always need to ask how I feel—you can directly share your feelings”
Say things like:
“You don’t have to ask ‘Am I being a bother?’—you can just say ‘I’m really nervous’—I’ll understand better that way.”
✅ Encourage them to speak honestly, not just use indirect hints to protect themselves.
🧄 5. Do things together where “making mistakes is totally fine”
For example:
Draw doodles together, cook a no-pressure meal, play games where nobody needs to win
These activities show them: “Even when I mess up, you still won’t leave.”
✅ Let them experience trust and ease—not just hear it.
🤍 What Anxioli Garlic-type friends want you to know:
“I don’t want to burden you—I just don’t dare to believe I’m worthy of your kindness.”
“My attention to detail doesn’t mean I’m picky—it means I care deeply about you.”
“If you’re okay with me being slow or easily anxious—I’ll cherish you for life.”
💬 You can say to them:
“Even when you’re worried, it doesn’t affect me—I want you to share your unfiltered feelings.”
“You deserve love—you don’t need to constantly get things right.”
“Relax—I’ll stay here. I won’t leave just because you said a few extra things.”