👀 You might notice these signs:
After finishing homework, your child asks, “Did I get it wrong? Should I fix it?”
Even when they’re fully prepared, they say, “I’m afraid I’ll forget something.”
They often avoid trying new things out of fear of making mistakes.
When criticized, it feels like the sky is falling—they stay down for a long time.
These are traits of an Anxioli Garlic-type child 🧄🤍:
They hold high expectations for themselves from a young age, and take everything seriously.
But the more serious they are, the more they worry they’re not good enough.
🧠 What they might be thinking inside:
“If I make a mistake, will you think I’m not good?”
“I try really hard, but I don’t know if I’m good enough…”
“I’m afraid you’ll be disappointed—I want to do things perfectly.”
“I want your praise, but I’m also afraid to fail.”
✅ So how can you gently support them?
🧄 1. Don’t rush to evaluate—first acknowledge their effort
Instead of immediately saying, “You got this part wrong,” try saying:
“I can see you put a lot of effort into this—you worked really hard.”
“You were really focused when doing this—I admire that attitude.”
✅ For an Anxioli Garlic child, “You tried hard” matters more than “You got it right.”
🧄 2. Help them see that “failing” doesn’t mean “not good enough”
You can say:
“Making mistakes is part of learning—it doesn’t mean you’re not capable.”
“You were brave to try—that’s amazing! If it’s wrong, we’ll fix it together.”
✅ Help them feel: “Even when I mess up, I won’t lose your love.”
🧄 3. Train their “self-talk” — teach them how to encourage themselves
Practice together:
“I’m not perfect, but I’m improving.”
“Not getting it right doesn’t mean I can’t do it—it means I’m still learning.”
✅ Teach them to stay grounded, even without outside validation.
🧄 4. Give them appropriate choices—instead of making all the decisions for them
Don’t decide everything on their behalf. Ask instead:
“Do you want to do it now or in 10 minutes?”
“Do you want to revise math or Chinese first?”
✅ Giving them a sense of control helps reduce anxiety.
🧄 5. Let them know: “You don’t need to be perfect—I already love you”
Say to them from time to time:
“You don’t need to be the best—I love you no matter what.”
“It’s okay to be worried—I understand, and I’ll walk with you.”
✅ What Anxioli Garlic children need most to hear: “Even if I’m not perfect, someone still stays by my side.”
🤍 What Anxioli Garlic-type children want you to know:
“I’m not trying to annoy you—I’m just really afraid of messing up.”
“I’m not trying to control everything—I just don’t want to disappoint you.”
“I don’t need you to give me a perfect score—I just want you to see how hard I’ve tried.”
💬 You can say to them:
“You’ve done really well today—you don’t need to get 100 to be happy.”
“I can see the heart you put in—I’m already proud of you.”
“It’s okay to feel worried—I’m here to face it with you.”