Hello~ I’m Gingerella.
I often look at the people around me and feel like they’re so talented and outstanding.
Then I look at myself and think, “Why can’t I be as good?”
It’s not that I don’t try—I just constantly feel like I’m one step behind.
This feeling sometimes makes it hard for me to express how I really feel,
because I’m afraid people will think I’m petty or immature.
But actually, I really want someone to understand me—
to know that I feel envy because I care,
to know that I feel anxious because I want to improve.
🧡 1. Offer Me Affirmation, Not Comparison
If you could say things like this, I’d feel much better:
“You’ve already done a great job.”
“I admire how much you expect from yourself.”
✅ Sometimes, one word of encouragement is all I need to find the courage to keep going.
🧡 2. Give Me a Safe Space—No Need to Pretend to Be Strong
Sometimes I pretend everything’s fine because I don’t want people to think I’ve lost.
But if you could say:
“You can talk to me about anything. I won’t laugh at you.”
✅ I’d start letting down my guard and feel safe enough to share my inner struggles.
🧡 3. Don’t Shut Me Down With Phrases Like “You’re Too Sensitive”
When I share that I feel envious of others, please don’t deny my feelings.
Instead, try asking me:
“What is it that you admire most about them?”
“What about yourself do you think deserves appreciation?”
✅ Asking questions instead of judging helps me feel that you truly want to understand me.
🧡 4. Help Me Rediscover My Own Light
I don’t want to always live in someone else’s shadow.
You can remind me:
“You have your own pace and rhythm.”
“Everyone has different strengths.”
✅ Slowly, I’ll find my own place—no longer just admiring others but also valuing myself.
“Envy is just a sign that you long to grow.”
“You can admire others without denying yourself.”
“Take it slow, and carve out a path that’s truly yours.”