"If a friend is Chee-carrot 🥕... how can I help them go further?
Have you ever had a friend like this around you?
- Always wearing a smile, creating a warm vibe, and so in tune with others' feelings
- Naturally stepping up to comfort you, crack jokes, or plan fun outings when you're down
- Giving so much to your friendship but rarely talking about themselves
- Always saying "I'm fine," even when you sense they're not
If so—that friend is probably a 'Chee-carrot friend' 🥕
🧡 What makes them Chee-carrot friends?
- They light up everyone around them with genuine empathy and encouragement
- They're super sensitive—knowing exactly when you need company
- They'll ask, 'How have you been?' or "Let's go out for a walk!"
- They love bringing joy, and truly want to help—but have you noticed they rarely share their own feelings? 🤔
🧊 Emotions they might hide:
- Even though they smile so much, they may secretly fear they're not appreciated
- They don't want to be a burden, so they swallow their own emotions
- If they can't cheer you up, they blame themselves
- Sometimes they wish you'd reach out—but they're too used to being the 'comforter' to ask for help
- Chee-carrot friends hate saying "I'm not okay." They're so used to making others comfortable, but they get tired too.
🤲 How can you be a truly safe friend to them?
1. Don't let them always take the lead
They ask you 'How are you?' all the time—reply by asking them:
'I want to know how you've been too—someone needs to listen to you.'
2. When they say 'I'm fine,' honor it—and also offer presence
You might say:
"Okay, you don't have to talk if you don't want to. I'll just sit with you. But if you ever do want to share, I'm here."
This matters so much. It shows you're ready to hold their feelings, not just fix them.
3. Express appreciation without waiting for them to open up
Chee-carrot friends dread being taken for granted. You can say:
"You're really so thoughtful."
"When you were there for me last time, I was so touched—but didn't know how to say it."
These words will stay in their heart a long time.
4. Do activities where they don't have to perform
For example:
- Go for a hike without needing to chat
- Draw, daydream, or simply sit in silence together
- Watch a movie—if they cry, that's okay. No explanation needed
When they're not 'on,' they can just be themselves.
5. Sometimes just 'care for them' in small ways
You don't need grand gestures. Simply:
- Let them choose the restaurant: 'Let's go where you like!'
- Send a quick text: 'Have you been taking care of yourself lately?'
That warmth will light them up inside. 💛
What Chee-carrot friends truly need:
- Friends who will laugh wildly with them, and sit quietly in solidarity
- Friends who appreciate their positivity, and welcome their vulnerable side
- Friends who don't just get cared for, but also get to return the care
🎤 Summary:
If your friend is a Chee-carrot, remember:
They aren't naturally always happy—they work hard to make you happy.
You don't need to 'repay' them. Just be genuinely there, and they'll feel it.
Are you willing to be the friend who lets a Chee-carrot 'stop pretending to be strong'? 🥕"