Hi, I'm Shivery Cuke! 🥒
Have you ever noticed that your family — especially your parents — seem to get nervous about everything?
Like, if you're five minutes late going out, they start calling you nonstop to ask where you are.
Or when you're making a decision, they keep saying, "Have you really thought it through?" or "What if something goes wrong?"
If this sounds familiar, there's a good chance you've got a pair of Shivery Cuke Parents! 😱
But don't worry — as a certified expert in nervousness, today I'm here to teach you how to get along with your "Shivery Cuke Parents" so your relationship can be more harmonious!
1. Understand why they get so nervous
Shivery parents often worry too much because they care.
They might be afraid you'll make the wrong decision and it could affect your future.
Maybe they've been through a lot in life, and they believe the world is unpredictable. So they keep reminding you to "Be careful!"
At the root of it, it's love — just wrapped up in anxiety.
Once you understand that their concern comes from a place of care — not control — you're less likely to argue with them.
2. Give them a sense of security
Because Shivery Parents are constantly worried, the most effective way to help them relax is to reassure them. For example:
✅ Let them know where you're going and when you'll be back — help them feel at ease.
✅ Before making a big decision, explain your plan to them. Show them you've considered all sides — they'll worry less about you acting impulsively.
✅ Involve them just a little in your decisions — ask for their opinion sometimes. This helps them feel respected and less anxious.
When you're proactive about sharing, they'll gradually stop calling you non-stop! 📞🔥
3. Don't snap back — try calming them first
When your parents start spiraling — asking things like "Are you sure this will work?" or "Do you have a Plan B?" — you might get annoyed.
But if you snap and say, "Ugh, stop bothering me!" they'll just get even more anxious! 😵💫
Here's a better approach 👇
✅ Acknowledge their feelings: "I know you're just worried about me — I understand!"
✅ Then gently explain: "But I've got this, I'm prepared. You can trust me!"
✅ If they're still overly anxious, try changing the subject: "How about we eat something nice tonight? Let's try that new restaurant!"
Soothing them works way better than arguing. ✨
4. Show them your growth
Sometimes, Shivery Parents simply haven't adjusted to the fact that you've grown up.
They still treat you like a kid and want to make all your decisions for you.
But you can show them, through your actions, that you're capable. For example:
🎯 Let them see how you solve real problems — like handling a work issue calmly and thoughtfully.
🎯 Give them chances to witness your independence — how you make your own decisions and manage your life.
🎯 After accomplishing something, tell them about it. Let them see that you're more mature now — they'll start to relax!
Once they begin to trust you, you'll see your "Shivery Cuke Parents" slowly transform into "Chill Parents." 💛
🥒 Quick Tips: How to avoid conflict with Shivery Cuke Parents?
🔹 Understand where their anxiety comes from (they're not trying to control you — they care)
🔹 Be proactive in sharing your plans (ease their uncertainty)
🔹 Soothe them — don't respond with conflict (a gentle tone works better than a fight)
🔹 Prove your ability through actions — build their trust over time
🎤 Final words from Shivery Cuke:
If your family members are "shivery," you've gotta try being the Master of Calm.
Don't let their nerves overwhelm you — use your own calmness to influence them instead!
Bit by bit, you'll realize: they're actually the people who care most about you in this world.
And once they start to feel at ease, your relationship will become so much better! 🥒💚✨
You got this! Let's become pros at calming down our Shivery Cuke Parents! 💪😆